Sunday, May 15, 2011

A Woman's Freedom

I thought I published this already but according to my dashboard it is only a draft.  I wrote this a long time ago for a friend to use on her paper.  That's right, I've been cited in a scholarly essay.  Any ways, I'm going to post this now.  Enjoy.

As the centuries have gone by, one tends to look back and marvel at all the changes we, as women, have gone through.  Throughout history we have fought, cried, and done things that maybe we are not proud of, all for the sake of claiming our freedom as women.  To show that we are not the weaker sex and that we can do whatever we want.  It is a woman's world today and even though it is debatable as to if we truly are equal to man, we can at least say that we are free right?  However, when you think about it, just how free are we?
I want to solely focus on one thing here so lets look at clothing.  Although this may not seem like a big factor in deciding our freedom, think about the changes that clothing has brought about.  In the 1950s women wore the pearls.  A symbol of the angelic house wife; vacuuming in pearls.  It was ideal to be the perfect housewife and to be home for the kids and your husband.  Then in the 1980s a change happened, women began to wear shoulder pads and suits.  This was done to bring about a change in how women were viewed in the workplace, by giving themselves a more "manly" look at the office it allowed them to be as cut throat as the men and viewed as such.  They moved up in the business world and now overrun it.  We went from being docile, home-bodie creatures to man slaughtering business women.  All was helped with fashion and how we allowed ourselves to be perceived.

When one thinks to today and women's fashion, one would say that women have never had more freedom.  We are allowed to dress any way that we want so of course we are free.  Well not exactly.  Many look at other cultures to compare an American woman's freedom and the easiest thing to exam is the difference in clothing.  One other culture that we easily see on our soil is the Muslim women.  This is more of a religious difference than culture I realize, but what affects are culture most if not religion?  One could look at the Muslim woman with her hijab on and covered from wrist to ankle and instantly think, 'that poor girl, she is so oppressed'.  But how oppressed is she really?  She wears those out of choice and it is done not as a degradation to the woman form.  Muslim women are viewed to be so beautiful that they are a distraction to Muslim men.  "If they weren't covered, we never get anything done!" says Mohammed Young a born Muslim man.  His wife, Charissa, agreed and stated, "Everyone thinks that they are so free when in reality the media oppresses them into wearing what they want." 

The hijab is the hardest thing to get over; I mean they have to cover their hair.  That is one of the main things that sets us apart as individuals.  However, take one look at the Hasidic Jews and you would think twice about a hijab.  Most Hasidic Jewish women cover their hair with sheitel or wig and others with a tichel or scarf.  However, when a Hasidic Jewish woman in the Satmar group gets married they have to shave their head.  This is not just for the wedding ceremony either, they have to keep it shaved for the rest of their lives.  Although we may see this as extreme, just think about how many times either you or a friend complained and stated that they were going to "just shave it all off"?  All because their hair didn't look a certain way or behave a certain way.

How free are we?  America is so sexualized it begs to ask the question.  Charissa Young is a revert, not born Muslim, she grew up with the same freedoms as every American girl.  So it why would she want to convert into this religion if it is so oppressive to women?  Everyday we see sex, the woman's body is put on display, and whether it looks like you or not it affects your decision in how you dress that day.  There have been many days when I spent hours trying to find something to wear and nothing was good enough because I didn't fell pretty or fashionable compared to the women on the screens.  I'm sure not everyone feels that way but it is impossible for you not to be affected by t.v. or movies, or magazines.  We see women like Muslims or Hasidic Jews as oppressed but is it no that we are really the ones who are oppressed?  We have to deal with the pressures of what a woman is as a sex object.  So when you think about it, is there really a woman in the world who is actually free?

Sunday, March 13, 2011

What Time is it?

Began to watch the movie Timer, where people are given the option to get a a timer implanted into their arms.  What this timer does is it counts down the days, months, hours, minutes, and seconds till you meet your soul mate.  Your timer will only activate once your soul mate has a timer implanted as well.  I found this to be an interesting concept and poses quite the question.  Would you want a timer that told you when you were going to meet your soul mate?  Oh I forgot the most important, once it counts down to the 24 hours before you will meet your soul mate and a little bell goes off with this cute little tune once you lay eyes on them.  So there is no doubt that they are your soul mate.

The benefits, of course, are that if you were with your soul mate, you would know instantly.  No question, no doubt, no reason to fear because this person is the one.  You may not see it instantly or you may not even like this person when you meet them but if your counter is done and goes off for this person they are your soul mate.

But what if you love someone and the two of you decided to go and get timers and then your timers didn't match up?  Would you be sad but also reassured in knowing that you are going to meet your true soul mate by the time your timer says?  What if every part of your being told you that the person you were with was your soul mate but the timer disagreed with that idea?  Would you ignore the timer and stay with the one you love?  Knowing full well that at any time you would meet your real soul mate and the cosmos would meld you together.  Breaking the heart of the one you are with, the one that you at least care deeply about.  And would you just fall out of love with the one you are with or continue to love them and your soul mate?

This technology does not exist, and I really can't see it becoming a need anytime to make such a device, but just imagine all the people that would buy something like this!  All the people on sites like e-harmony for start.  And apparently that's a lot of people these days.  In essence, e-harmony is the closest thing we have to a timer.  It takes information about our personality and matches us to people that we work for us.  The same with the timer except when this person signs up for e-harmony, you get an email and decide when you will meet.  With the Timer, fate decides.

Do we need something like a timer?  At least if we had them, there would never be any doubt.  You would never wonder if there was someone better for you out there or wish that you had dated more.  But are you not suppose to feel that way with your soul mate anyways?  And what if your timer never activates or sets for when your 80?  Would you wait for you soul mate to come into your life or just go with what your given?  They may not be your soul mate, but what if they made you happy?  Shouldn't that be what really matters?  If you are always looking for your soul mate, you may always be alone.  And if they are not your soul mate at the time you meet, that doesn't mean that they won't be later.  Then you would have passed them up simply because they didn't fit your list perfectly.

So the question is, would you get a Timer?  Or would you leave it up to you and fate to find your soul mate?

Sunday, March 6, 2011

An Education

As you grow up you learn many things and it's true, you are never too old to learn something new.  I have learned that the first slaves ever recorded were actually white.  They were Slavic, so it doesn't get much whiter than that!  I've learned that "shunggal tea" (spelled how it sounds!) is "come here please" in Arabic.  I have learned almost everything there is about 35 mm film and how to fix problems with it.  But have you ever learned a something about someone who was once in your life?  Something that, you never knew and changes a lot of things about that person?  I recently learned something about a friend from High School.  The specifics are not important and very private, I don't really feel it was something that I was ever suppose to know.  So I will not share the details, but I will say this, it completely changes my vunderstanding of this person.  When I say that they were a friend I mean that I knew them and talked to them and at one point was a very good friend of theirs.  But time changes people and they drift apart.  This person changed a lot during High School and I thought I knew why but I was very wrong.  This person came from a home that was very, shall we say, restricted.  As in all their life, only "G" rated movies were allowed.  I'm sure that there were other restrictions but this is the one I was told of.  So when they got into college, it was no shock they went a little wild.  This person did a complete 180 from who she was.  When I learned this secret, it changed a lot for me.  It's one of those secrets that makes you feel bad.  Bad for it happening in the first place and bad that you didn't help the person it happened to.  There is nothing I can do about it now but I can't help but wonder if I could have helped?  If it would have changed things between us.  Maybe we wouldn't have drifted apart as much, although I feel that was inevitable.  Its sad that finding a horrible truth makes me realize how little I did know about my friend.  I can understand why they didn't tell me and I guess I am glad that they didn't.  I don't think I could have handled it as a kid.  Still, I wish I could have done something, been there for them in some way.  It still is a secret that I'm sure that I'm not suppose to know so now I feel trapped.  Trapped by the education on my friend for I can't say anything to them about it to learn more and I can't say nothing.  I guess just a "how are things" will just have to do.