Hi! This is Josephine here, for those of you who don't know I am a twenty three year old grad student from North Carolina living in Seattle. I've definitely noticed a few things about being single in our world today, and I'm excited to join my friends in this fun blog!
So, I ran into this story (link below) a few weeks ago and it just made sense to use my first post to bring it to people's attention. See, here's the thing: we all play roles in our lives and we all make adjustments to ourselves to impress others. There is no denying this. The boy you like likes you in that sweater? You'll probably be seen in that sweater more than you have beeen since you bought it. Hell, he likes your hair longer and you'll probably grow it out. But come on, there's a line to how much anyone can be expected to adjust or change themselves for others, and this most definitely crosses it:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylYEzRUWCxs
I really do only end up feeling bad for the girl, if she were my friend I'd like to think I'd bitch slap her. It's just sad that there are people with such a delicate self-esteem and a need to be loved that they will go to this length. Even more sad is the fact that its only grasping at a frayed thread. The boy will probably never go back to her, or have sex with her once (maybe even a few times) for the novelty if she's "lucky" and then leave her. Then she'll be stuck, alone, with the consequences...
Sounds corny, but you really do have to love yourself (or at least be okay with yourself) before
a) you can really love others and b) others can really love you.
So, if your friend decides that they need to do something this extreme to win someone back (boy or girl) please do them a favor and bitch slap them. k? k.
